Actually I'd rather have NOTHING new to report.

First to answer some questions:
We found out about all this from Patti, the person who adopted Oksana (who was a little girl from the same group our kids are in). Patti met the other family when she was there for her court date in November. That's when they previewed our kids.

After I talked to Patti, I called the agency to make sure they knew that the other family was possibly fighting the disqualification. The agency is the one that told me that the family had tried to go over their head, so yes they did know that. They knew what was going on.

I can't say much more about it on here, because quite honestly at this point I don't know if it's possible if the other family might be aware of this blog.

This morning while we were meeting for service, I got an email (read it on my phone) from Patti saying that if we want to talk to that other family, they are willing to talk to us. I almost started hyperventilating. Does that mean they WANT to talk to us?! What could they possibly want to say? I'm not a confrontational person, in the first place, I don't like talking to people about personal things and not knowing what their motives and intentions are or what they might say, and I don't know that it will help any of us through this difficult time. I am mildly curious about what they would want to say to us, but it makes me panic at the thought. I could understand not being able to handle being disqualified after meeting the kids, and that never should have happened. The agency, whether trying to be nice or not, should have never allowed that. I would be upset and angry and grasping at straws if I were them. No one accepts rejection well, and in most cases it probably feels unjustified to the person rejected.

But the facts are that no matter how much they liked the kids when they met them (I'm sure they did); I have a pretty confirmed reason to believe that the kids are much more active than would be compatible for parents who won't run around with them full speed for hours, go down water slides with them, etc. Nothing against other parents that these kids could have had, but these kids DON'T want to be supervised when they are playing. They want to be played with. That's one of the reasons we love them and they are so perfect for us. Compatibility was not something lacking at all with the 4 of us (and not just with play). And the kids were quite obviously aware of it.

So this is probably yet another thing that "never happens" that is happening to US! If the kids were anything short of fantastic, I would regret ever beginning this adoption process. It's really not fair that (after all this time of weird delays in spite of our unusually ideal circumstances for adopted kids) not only are we getting no news lately - we're getting upsetting news now!

Does the adoption universe have some kind of advance knowledge of my ability to handle stress and is trying to push it to the limit?! LOL

Love,
Molly

PS- we heard that the family in Texas, Stephanie, who adopted two girls from our kids' group in June, got the girls home and are adjusting very well. I'm happy for them. They are a nice family and the girls are very sweet. Katya is good friends with them.